If someone gives you a lame reason why they cannot meet though they’ve been promising you they can—DON’T BE OKAY WITH IT.

Ignoring it and/or simply not meeting them is counterintuitive in combating Asian Passivity. You’re perpetuating passivity in yourself and others by withdrawing or implicitly teaching them this is okay.

Find a non-violent and very clever way to punish them so you can end their lame tyranny. Make sure to tell them how they will receive their retribution and make sure they understand they are being punished because their lameness has invoked your wrath.

Examples for punishment:

• Saran wrap their toilet
• Saran wrap their car
• Send a gift box, filled with magazine clippings of the word “LAME”
• Send them a picture of yourself holding a spoon as if to scoop them to death with it
• Send them a meme of their picture, captioned with, “Says too busy to have lunch you, Goes spend two hours eating lunch. LAME!”
• Threaten to send anti-lame bombs to their home.

survivorsupport:

1. Releasing yourself from the power that anger toward your rapist has over you. Saying, “You hurt me, it wasn’t okay, I will never forget it, you are a criminal, but I am not going to let these feelings of anger overpower me. I am releasing that hold.” Releasing anger is a form of forgiveness.
2. Truly forgiving the rapist. Saying, “I forgive you. I am not going to forget, but I truly forgive you for what wrong you have done to me, and I hope that you never do this again.”

The first of these two is a good idea to achieve at some point in your healing process, because holding onto and rehashing that anger is so exhausting and depressing, and you deserve to be released from the power of anger. Of course there is nothing wrong with expressing anger towards what happened to you. It just becomes a problem when it overpowers your functioning or causes you to do bad things.

As for the second, you don’t have to do that. That is completely up to you, and no one has a right to tell you what to do with that. 

We are adopted Sons of God. Specifically, to be Sons of God. We do not ask God “Why?” because we are not his parent. We are also not his pets, simply to perform for Him so he is pleased. We are Sons of God to reflect his Glory, to be his image bearer, to be His child whom he loves. We can only simply trust in our Father’s Guidance, depend on him our protector, and have faith that he is indeed, our God that is Good. To be adopted as his childthrough Jesus Christ is his pleasure and will.